I seem to recall she denied they had ever been involved.
Not sure about that, but I know Elijah said on Howard Stern that they had never dated.
I don't know whether you recall an entry from a couple of months back, when the full pics from which I got my icon here were posted up? The photos were old ones from a party in NZ, and Elijah was holding the hand of a woman virtually no-one recognised. Someone spoke up to say they thought her name was Jan Something-or-other, that she was an assistant of PJ's, and that she & Elijah may have dated for a while.
I know the entry, but I must have missed most of the relationship speculation (I simply can't track every entry, and I didn't expect anything untoward from that one). Still, I have to admit that I'm not as bothered about discussion of relationships that are as much as seven years in the past.
That's really beside the point here, though: the difference is that the purpose of that entry was to share pics with people. I'm not surprised that people speculated about who she was, but it seems unlikely to me that it's something that the author of the post caused intentionally. It seems to me that your entry was posted with the intention of sparking discussion and speculation about his current relationships, and that is what I see as being against the rules. If that was not your intention, I apologize for thinking so, but it does appear that way to me and to those who responded to it with the expected discussion and speculation.
I'm sorry if you felt patronized, but I also fail to see how a simple reminder of one of the rules constitutes either that or as having the rule book thrown at you. And I did say that the entry could stay -- it seemed harmless enough, and there is certainly no need to delete it now, either.
I'm sorry that this makes you feel unwelcome, but please put yourself in my shoes for a moment... I made the rule because I don't want this particular comm to turn into a place where people are comfortable gossiping about any and all aspects of Elijah's personal life. I think it's inevitable that it occasionally turns up in comments, and like I said, I can't track them all and don't necessarily feel inclined to reprimand every single person who makes such a slip (if I did, I think people would learn to stop commenting at all, and pretty quickly). But, when an entry is made that seems to be inviting such discussion, I need to say something before folks start to think that it's acceptable. I hope you can understand that.
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Date: 2007-08-21 05:18 am (UTC)Not sure about that, but I know Elijah said on Howard Stern that they had never dated.
I don't know whether you recall an entry from a couple of months back, when the full pics from which I got my icon here were posted up? The photos were old ones from a party in NZ, and Elijah was holding the hand of a woman virtually no-one recognised. Someone spoke up to say they thought her name was Jan Something-or-other, that she was an assistant of PJ's, and that she & Elijah may have dated for a while.
I know the entry, but I must have missed most of the relationship speculation (I simply can't track every entry, and I didn't expect anything untoward from that one). Still, I have to admit that I'm not as bothered about discussion of relationships that are as much as seven years in the past.
That's really beside the point here, though: the difference is that the purpose of that entry was to share pics with people. I'm not surprised that people speculated about who she was, but it seems unlikely to me that it's something that the author of the post caused intentionally. It seems to me that your entry was posted with the intention of sparking discussion and speculation about his current relationships, and that is what I see as being against the rules. If that was not your intention, I apologize for thinking so, but it does appear that way to me and to those who responded to it with the expected discussion and speculation.
I'm sorry if you felt patronized, but I also fail to see how a simple reminder of one of the rules constitutes either that or as having the rule book thrown at you. And I did say that the entry could stay -- it seemed harmless enough, and there is certainly no need to delete it now, either.
I'm sorry that this makes you feel unwelcome, but please put yourself in my shoes for a moment... I made the rule because I don't want this particular comm to turn into a place where people are comfortable gossiping about any and all aspects of Elijah's personal life. I think it's inevitable that it occasionally turns up in comments, and like I said, I can't track them all and don't necessarily feel inclined to reprimand every single person who makes such a slip (if I did, I think people would learn to stop commenting at all, and pretty quickly). But, when an entry is made that seems to be inviting such discussion, I need to say something before folks start to think that it's acceptable. I hope you can understand that.